This post was so very popular that I took the topic and expanded it into two different guest posts about the lesser known history of Victorian Mourning Etiquette on the book review sites Chapter Break (why mourning existed and was popular) and Psychotic State (lesser known mourning traditions) as a part of my Halloween Tour. So if you like this article, you might want to also check those out. Enjoy!
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There are multiple reasons why Victorians were obsessed with death. To start, they were surrounded by it. Without modern medicine the average lifespan was half of what it is today, and hospitals were still disease invested holes where people were sent to be forgotten. Thus people died regularly and they died in the home where everyone could witness each horrific moment. Today, we have removed death from our homes and from our minds in many ways. For the Victorians, death was right in their faces.
To pile on the miseries, the monarch of the Victorian Age, Queen Victoria, was obsessed with death after her beloved husband Prince Albert died at the young age of 42. For the next 40 years, the queen wore black and froze her house in time, having servants continue to lay out her husband’s clothing. Just as fashion from Paris is in vogue in America, so too was a Queen’s mourning practices, which become the proper etiquette all over the world.
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Victorians also tried to keep as much as they could from the deceased to remember them by, even going to the extent of taking photos of dead propped up to look like they are alive as seen in the photo to the upper left. In addition to black, mourners wore locks of the deceased hair in lockets, broaches, and bracelets.
In addition to the elaborate mourning etiquette, the funerals were
elaborate and massive. The larger the funeral, the more it showed the family
loved the deceased. This lead Victorians to have heavily attended processions
with glass viewing coffins and the intricate headstones and mausoleums that we
see still see in our cemeteries.
The Victorian era was also a major time of transition with new
knowledge being discovered in every realm, including evolution and technology,
which meant new ideas were challenging religion. Additionally, increased
immigration also introduced a variety of new ideas to religion. A lot of people
reacted by clinging to old ways and beliefs. Even architecture and furniture
reflected this desire to hold onto the past. They exaggerated and dramatized
their dedication to their belief in order not to lose them.
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Much of Victorian death culture developed out of subconscious
reactions to wide-spread death, new scientific discoveries, and popular culture
and these fears and anxieties were reflected in much of the Victorian era,
which makes the time a perfect setting for a dark and creepy story.
To learn more and get some details about Victorian Mourning
practices, check out these websites:
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About Stephanie Carroll
Stephanie Carroll is the author of A White Room and "Forget Me Not" featured in Legacy: An Anthology. She blogs about magical realism, her research into the Victorian Era and Gilded Age, writing, and life in general at www.stephaniecarroll.net and at The Unhinged Historian. She also founded Unhinged and Empowered, a blog for Navy wives and girlfriends.

Stephanie Carroll is the author of A White Room and "Forget Me Not" featured in Legacy: An Anthology. She blogs about magical realism, her research into the Victorian Era and Gilded Age, writing, and life in general at www.stephaniecarroll.net and at The Unhinged Historian. She also founded Unhinged and Empowered, a blog for Navy wives and girlfriends.
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That's so interesting! It's amazing how so many of their ritualistic routines regarding death came specifically from the events after the death of Prince Albert! And because of the continued rituals the Victorian era does give sort of a "creepy" vibe.
ReplyDeleteAnd a lot of their practices remain in our culture today - like wearing black to funerals and there are still many who feel that they have to spend a lot of money on a funereal to prove they loved the deceased.
ReplyDeleteA lot of it also had to do with religion but that could be an entirely different post. The Victorians were among the first to start thinking of death and the afterlife as a better thing than life.
This of course led to their eventual obsession with ghosts - traditions that also remain in our culture today =)
Life was miserable for Victorians. With all the sexual repression, diseases, serial killers, and whatnot they must have thought that death would be better than life because life was so miserable for them.
ReplyDeleteThank you Anonymous for commenting. Your observation is spot on! This was a time period when the religious focus really turned toward looking forward to the afterlife. Many religious figures and preachers encouraged their parishioners to have hope in spite of the trials and troubles they experienced by looking forward to the joys and peace of heaven. It was also a time period when death was still a daily part of life. Simple things such as illness and childbirth could turn fatal anytime and people had a much shorter lifespan.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for commenting!
Very interesting topic and post. I really enjoyed reading it!
ReplyDeleteThanks Melody! I'm glad you enjoyed it. =)
DeleteI am currently in a Victorian Art and Culture class and I appreciate sites like this while doing research. It really gets the wheels turning. it's really awesome to learn about the way things started and gives you a much better insight on the world and how it is today. Really makes you understand the "well back in my day.." thank you!
ReplyDeleteThank you for commenting Amy. A Victorian Art and Culture class sounds so interesting! I wish I had that class when I went to college. What all is in the curriculum? Tell me the secret titles of your text books ;-)
DeleteIf you found this article helpful, you might also enjoy some of the articles I am doing right now as guest posts to promote my book sale. I'm posting them on this blog this and next week. One of the ones I'm writing was based off of this post on Victorian's Obsession with Death, but is an expanded version. I'm also writing articles on mourning etiquette, the architecture of haunted Victorian houses, and historical Victorian Halloween games and decorations. That one is so awesome. Got it all from a 1903 Newspaper article. Really excited for it.
Check back this and next week to see those when they get published.
Sincerely,
Stephanie Carroll
You misspelled Victoria instead you have Queen Victorian (3rd paragraph 1st sentence)
ReplyDeleteThe modern version of this (at least in Southwest Louisiana) is to inscribe some statement remembering the lost one in white vinyl letters on the back of a pickup window.
ReplyDeleteThat's done here in California too. There's still a lot of things we do that is similar to the Victorians, huh?
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